To commit or not to commit, is the question? This is a subject that hits too close to home for me. And I’m sure for a lot of you out there as well. Back in the day, I could care less about commitment. I was young and having fun lol. As I got older, I longed for something more. A true commitment. I was definitely ready to settle down.
It took my hubby 7 years to get off the pot and propose. Don’t get me wrong, he was definitely worth the wait. But come on, 7 years. Really!! That pot must’ve been really comfortable lol. Maybe it was one of those pots that warmed the tooshie. Who knows. Well anyways, During those first 7 years of utter bliss , I ranked pretty low. That’s right my relationship was at a lease status. Allow me to explain. When you’re in a lease status, this means you can test the waters until it’s time to renew. Then you can either renew the lease or move on.
Now I’m not just talking about men here. Woman have commitment issues as well. But everyone has commitment issues for different reasons.
Now lets talk about a when one ranks in a timeshare status. Timeshare status meaning, you have been in it forever, but have never gotten anything out of it. I know a few people who rank in this status. To make it to this incredible status, You know what you have to do. Yep you guessed it, keep renewing that amazing lease. But remember you got to be really good at sealing the deal to keep that lease going. You better be offering something good to keep the other person coming back for more, Or you’ll never make it to that timeshare status.
Once you’ve made it to your 10th year of your lease, you can take a deep breath and relax, the hard part is over, you have now made it to a timeshare status. Yay! But who would of thought that moving up in rank from a lease to a timeshare would feel like you were at the lowest status possible. How can moving up make you feel so low? I mean moving up in rank should make you feel happy right? It would if you were actually moving up. A timeshare may come after a lease, but you’re actually taking a step back. This is a tough status to rank at. More than likely this is not the status you were hoping for.
Now I know they say “good things come to those who wait”. But how long are we talking about here? How long is too long to wait for a true commitment? Should we have to wait until our first wrinkle comes into view, or when our boobs and balls start to sag. I mean come on people, shouldn’t there be a cutoff limit to how long someone actually should wait for the opposing idiot to decide if you’re worthy or not. I guess the real question is, is this idiot worthy of you? Only you can decide if he or she is worth the wait. My sexy idiot was definitely worth the wait. I like how Beyonce put it “If you liked it, then you should of put a RING on it”. Every relationship is different. And not everyone is going to want to wait years for a true commitment, especially if you’re not worth the wait. So what I’m trying to say is “Shit or get off the pot”.
If you’re lucky enough, one day, and I hope one day this happens for you all, you can make it smack down in the middle of the lease and the timeshare with a mortgage. That’s right, you can get that shit in writing. A true commitment! I was beyond thrilled to make it to a mortgage status. I got to walk down the aisle before things started to sag. Oh and I got to marry the love of my life.
Now maybe you and your significant other are happy at your current rank. As long as your happy that’s all that matters. But always know your worth and never wait for someone who is not worth waiting for. Remember, you deserve to be happy:)
So what’s your rank? Are you happy with your current rank?